V-Cards and Family Life

Last week I had the opportunity to talk to a bunch of grade 12 girls about V-Cards. They were talking about why they gave their v-cards to guys that thought – at the time – cared for them. This was simply the culture that these girls were raised in...

It’s not too harsh to say that these girls might not know any other way. You talk about unconditional love and they think it’s unrealistic. You talk about waiting for the ONE in a healthy relationship called marriage and they will say it’s too hard to wait. Well... In fact, it may seem unrealistic and too hard in a culture - media, popularity, and perhaps upbringing – who have taught them to do “it” otherwise.

So, in my youth pastor savy, I had to jump into the conversation. It was the best part of my week...

Interesting enough, none of the girls knew any of the social sciences behind the seemingly guilt and shame they have experienced. Yes, they have been taught the physical dynamics to relationships but have been left to navigate through the relational and emotional damage caused by unhealthy relationships. In the same way none of them have heard of unconditional love - from people or religion or relationships.

So, of course I talk about Jesus as the ONE, and the difference between religion, love, and lust... but it has to be even deeper than that. I even talked about forgiveness and healing when some guy “takes” the v-card... YET my question to you is how do we show a culture a BETTER “yes” to wait than just a “no” and just to go for it?

What are your thoughts...